There are as many ways to heal as there are human beings on this planet.

We have the power to heal ourselves, and we don’t have to do it all by ourselves. Only you can decide what is healing for you, and how healing looks for you.

I don’t need everyone to like me. I've decided that I like me.

Having permission to like yourself as you are might seem like a simple thing to want.

But it gets more complicated once we include the opinions of others.

I’ve been looking at and thinking about self image pictures this week, notably having a clear view of oneself.

I started thinking about this energy, the themes and pictures around it, last week while exchanging readings with a fellow clairvoyant, a colleague and friend. There was an energy that came up in the reading: I saw pictures around old illusions cracking like the hall of mirrors in the famous scene from the Orson Welles 1947 film, ‘The Lady From Shanghai’.

When you show up as your true self, it is you who will be seen.

It sounds simple enough, doesn't it? If you want to be seen as yourself, you have to show up and be who you are.

This means you’ll need to let go of any energy that tells you you're not enough, and that you should hide until you earn the right to step up.

When you choose to believe in yourself, you’re ignoring the status quo that says you require approval from others in order to proceed with your belief in you.

Many of us, myself included, have been the cheerleaders and validators for others in our lifetime - whether friends, family, students, clients, co-workers, strangers we meet and encourage.

Agreements, among other things, make the world go round.

Every aspect of life has agreements attached, both conscious and unconscious ones.

Conscious agreements include the agreement to speak the truth, and to hear that truth.

Just when I thought I’d finally been getting the hang of it, it’s time to take another leap forward in learning how to trust.

I am specifically talking about trusting myself, and trusting that I am supported in my life. In other words - knowing that no matter what, my spirit’s got me, and my body knows what to do. Learning to trust myself is a daily practice that began when I chose to make a commitment to my own growth and healing. Since that time, I’ve become quite used to trusting myself in so many important ways. When it’s time again for me to take a step forward, take some chances, and be vulnerable - I realize I’ve got another round of trusting to do.

What if your real value is based on how you value yourself?

When you value yourself, you teach others that you have value, which sounds like a simple thing to do, doesn’t it? If you've been thinking it works the other way, and have been trying to find your value out there, rather than within, you've been depending on others to tell you what you’re worth. Or, you’ve judged your value based on how you think you compare to others.

Learning to slow down to have more space.

I’ve always been a bit fiery and fast moving, and I'm not the most patient of souls sometimes. These are some of the things I'm working on adjusting for myself. I get stuff done, but it's more fun for me if I remember that what's most important is the spirit I bring along with me. I'd like to be operating more from a place of inner peace and relaxation, in other words, trust.

The days I rush through my morning daily practice, (meditation etc.) because I convince myself that I'm too busy or over scheduled, I feel it.

Contrary to popular opinion, becoming disillusioned might not be so bad.

Finding yourself disillusioned means that you’re no longer under an illusion of some kind.

What if this means that now you’re able and willing to see what’s really going on? The veil has lifted, and you can see clearly now.

Are you the one who’s in charge of knowing what’s true for you?

When your truth is inconvenient for someone, they will try to convince you that they know best what’s true for you. If you allow others to convince you that what you know isn't true, you’re letting them curate your truth for you.

Deciding that you are the one with the responsibility to know for yourself, gives you the freedom to act upon what you know. Your knowing gets validated by being made real in your life.

For your entire life you were taught to seek out those in the know: experts, teachers, authorities of all kinds.

This isn’t a bad thing to do – we all benefit from getting help when we need it, or having someone point us in the right direction to find what we need.

However, if you need someone else to give you permission to live your life the way you choose, and you’re over the age of 18, your ability to create for yourself is invalidated. If you need an authority to tell you what is possible, it will be hard for you to know your own answers, or to discover any of them on your own.