Everyone has the power to heal.

Healing is a creative choice, a conscious act. When it comes to your own healing, you have more power than you may know. Healing yourself is an everyday way to live, and isn’t only for when you are sick or injured.

Everyone has a different definition of what 'self healing' means. For you, it may mean that you’re living a life that fulfills you. For example, maybe healing yourself means that you actively seek relationships that are based on mutual respect, trust, and love. You do work that is meaningful for you.

Trying to control is key here, because that’s all you can really do with most beings and situations, try to have control.

When it comes down to it, you have no control over anything outside of yourself. It’s not your job to control anyone, though you may have agreed to do so. When you are doing this to others, you are also in their space, ie: invading them. When you try to control the actions of another, or the outcome of a situation, you are in danger of losing your own energy, and of forgetting that you have much more of an effect on the situation by staying in your own space.

Many of us have controlled in order to feel safe.

When you give yourself the freedom to be exactly who you are, you have space.

When you allow yourself to take up space without having to explain yourself to anyone else, you have enough room to breathe and to be. You have the right to exist, and you know why you’re here.

You are here to learn who you are. This isn't anyone else's job, only you can do it. You have permission to make your own decisions without waiting for approval from anyone else, when you choose to be yourself.

They’ve been doing it your whole life, letting you know who you are and how you fit in.

Are you really who, and how, others say you are? It’s not that anyone means you any harm by telling you these things. After all, you’ve probably done the same for others. It can be a great validation and comfort to be accepted into a group.

Belonging can help you feel safe, which is why it's so difficult to pull away from the group identity. You might even belong to a group you love to hate, yet can’t seem to step away from. You get sucked back in every time you try.

Nobody knows you better than you know yourself.

If someone tells you they know you better than you do, they are misinformed. They might be saying that they know who they want you to be, who you are 'supposed' to be, or who you want them to think you are. Meanwhile, the actual truth of who you are might be hidden and protected down deep, under a surface of demands, responsibilities, beliefs, agreements, and other people’s energy.

Your truth might be so well hidden that even you are having a hard time seeing it. You might not know yourself, the real you, at all.

It’s easy to lose perspective and space when going through times of great change.

Things seems to be moving faster every day, as if the planet itself is spinning more rapidly. Life on earth feels more intense these days, with brilliant miracles as well as big challenges showing up daily.

Because of all this intensity, we can get caught up in whatever is right in front of us more easily. This includes the latest news, someone else’s anger or problems or fears, politics, worries about jobs, money, relationships, and other issues that can take over.

The most common questions any psychic is asked are about relationships: past, present, and future.

Though most people want a reading on their current romantic status, or lack thereof, there are many other relationships, as well as spiritual agreements, available to be seen.

These include one’s relationships with family, partners, lovers, friends, workmates, and any exes still in the picture.

Have you ever wondered why some people get angry when you change?

I first became aware of my spiritual agreements with others years ago, after I made changes in my life that I thought were good for me. In my enthusiasm, I thought my friends would think so too, and would be happy for me. I was growing, and proud of myself for doing so, plus the choices I was making had taken me some deep work to get to.

As a psychic reader, I often look at the energy of having space.

Sometimes the person I’m reading has lost her or his space, given it up to something or someone else. Other energy has become more important in that person’s space than their own energy, needs, health, desires, dreams, or information.

This is a spiritual choice, and often an unconscious one. A psychic reading is a great place to say hello to this energy so that the person handling it can become conscious, and perhaps choose to let it go.

Currently many of us are working on where we have given up space to money and its ‘value’. When we give greater value to something outside of ourselves, we often undervalue the bountiful riches to be found within.

In this fast moving world, it's a challenge to find space in which to have silence.

Silence is so rare nowadays that when a city dweller goes somewhere quiet and rural, what is often noticed first is 'how quiet it is here'.

It’s amazing to become aware of the silence, and realize you haven’t heard silence for years. Yes, it is something to hear.