Posts tagged freedom to be yourself
What do your agreements with others allow you to have, do, and become?

Did you ever share a deep secret longing with someone who judged you for wanting the very thing you wanted?

You couldn’t wait to share this new idea with your friend, and expected that she would listen to you happily and embrace your new vision for your life.

You thought she’d be excited for you when you told her you’d decided to travel the world, or become an astronaut, or make a living doing your art.

You’d expected that your friend would embrace and support your dream, as you would embrace hers.

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Time Stopped: what Miss Havisham taught us about letting go

Miss Havisham is a character in Charles Dickens’ ‘Great Expectations’, famous for being jilted by her groom-to-be on their wedding day.

Havisham receives a telegram at 8:40am on the day in question, letting her know that her betrothed will not marry her. What does Havisham do after this rude rejection? She decides to stop time in that precise moment, 8:40am.

She chooses to continue to experience the humiliation of being left on her wedding day.

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Every transformation begins with letting go of an old identity

It’s that time again. You’d think I’d be used to this by now, but I’m still hitting that old familiar resistance.

Big time change is here, again, and though I’m welcoming this one, it’s a bit nerve wracking. I know that if I allow myself to roll with it, it will get easier. Still, part of me is fighting letting go of the old identity I’ve been hauling around.

The transformation is here to give me more space and freedom to be exactly who I am. The demands I’ve placed upon myself to make sense and be responsible, are falling away. Yet part of me resists.

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